Are you a victim?

Currently I am reading the book "How to pull your own strings" by Dr.Wayne W.Dyer.It got me thinking how many of us are victims of society? Well we may think we are not, but the truth is most of us are being victimized by someone or the other every single day.From our families and friends to employers and shopkeepers we get victimized at least in a small way.


What is being victimized? It is the state of making one feel helpless, and to take advantage of that feeling.Parents might show their authority to children simply by denying them the right to do things, even if they bring no harm to the child.The child feels helpless against the overbearing parent.Employers victimize employees by instilling a feeling of not performing well enough to earn that pay hike or promotion.Clerks make victims out of their customers by repeating a line on how the policy works, so that he/she can avoid helping the customer.In all these situations you would feel helpless, angry and disappointed.


But there is a way to turn the tables around.According to Dr.Dyer one has to be constantly aware to identify such victimizing situations and simply refuse to be a victim. That is to take a non-victim stance.Once you recognize that you are being victimized,you need to be adamant that you will get your way, and you will definitely not be treated as  victim.This will take sometime to master but what is important is to take the first step in being a non victim, which takes immense will power and perseverance.Both of which can be cultivated in any of us. 


Although Dy Dyer' s book was written in the 70s it is still applicable to the current society we live in.There are still victimizers and victims.But the lucky ones are the non victims.If you can get hold of a copy of this book it will definitely be an eye opener on how exactly you can be the master of your life and pull your own strings.